Six Simple Ways to Relax

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As a 16 year old girl who is due to do her GCSEs in about three months, I tend to get pretty stressed.

But thankfully, I’ve picked up a few ways that really help me chill out and put the worries on pause. This post is part of a Self-Care series so tell me what you think of it so far!

Whilst you’re reading this I hope you’ll be able to find something you like and can use to relax. If you find this helpful, make sure to share this post! I’d really appreciate it and I’m sure other people would too.

Here are six easy ways I relax :

Light a candle

Now I don’t mean just light any old candle, I want you to find a candle you fall in love with. And every time you light it, you can take a deep breath and enjoy the moment. My personal favourite scent is cinnamon maple which is quite Christmassy but I just love how it makes me feel warm and it transforms my room into a cosy little area.

When you find the candle you like, don’t just light it and carry on. That’s not the point here, try clearing the space you’re in and sit down near the candle. Take some time to get comfortable and just concentrate on the scent and how it makes you feel. Ignore your surroundings, I like closing my eyes. I suppose it’s meditation but it’s a nice way to just forget about what’s on your mind.

Read a book 

I’ve recently started doing this again and honestly it’s helped me so much. After I’ve completed my work for the day, I like to snuggle up under the covers and start reading.

And no, it’s not a wattpad book, it’s an actual paperback! It just feels so satisfying and nostalgic to be able to feel and flip the pages myself. There’s nothing wrong with reading a book on a kindle or your phone but personally I prefer the physical copy. It ensures that I’m fully focused on the book and there’s no temptation to close the app and go into something else.

You can pick a new book or an old one, it’s completely up to you! Rereading books always makes me feel happy. At the moment I’m reading “this book will save your life” by a.m. homes and it’s hilarious..when a book can make me laugh out loud, it’s a keeper.


You’ve probably heard enough people singing yoga’s praises but it’s one of the greatest things you can do for your body. When I get stressed I become incredibly tense and it’s so uncomfortable that it gets difficult to sleep. I like to do yoga to stretch out my body and really open everything up, it helps me breath better and diminishes any tension in me.

If you’re not really sure about what yoga is or what you should do then check out my Yoga board on Pinterest or google it. I like spending about ten minutes every evening doing it. Being able to focus on my body for a small amount of time each day has really made difference.

Have a hot drink 

Well. It doesn’t have to be a hot drink but they’re my favourite.

I drink a giant mug of green tea everyday after I come back from school and it’s just so relaxing. Because it’s freezing outside, spending a couple of minutes to make some piping hot tea really brightens my mood and I’m chilled out for a while. I add a tablespoon of honey which really helps.

Hot chocolate is incredible for this too! The main point is that you need to enjoy the drink and not try and think about other things or do work whilst drinking it.

Call a friend

I actually came up with this post with a friend the other day, so thanks mate! Being able to chat with a friend takes my mind off of everything and talking is just so much better than texting. I can vocally let out how I’m feeling and what I’m thinking, knowing that on the other end of the line my friend can understand everything.

You can rant, chat about your day or talk about just about anything. That’s the beauty of it. I recommend you try to avoid stressful topics though, that is kind of a given with relaxation.

Try breathing techniques

I learnt the 4-7-8 breathing technique when I was really struggling to fall asleep a couple years ago and it’s stuck with me since. After doing some research into it, I learnt that it can be used for anxiety or stress too. This technique is brilliant as it causes your heart rate to slow down which in turn causes your body to relax.

You breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it for 7 seconds and breathe out for 8 seconds. Repeat it for as long as you’d like, I usually stop once I feel that my whole body is relaxed.

Focusing on your breathing is another distraction to whatever is stressing you out and is especially helpful if you’re unable to get out of a stressful situation.
That’s all! I really hope you’ve found this helpful, being able to chill and take some time out is so important.

Thank you for reading, leave any relaxation tips you have below!

Safa x

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  1. I started meditating last year, after I was getting stress anxiety. I was surprised how much it actually helped me. You can download free apps for it. Thank you for sharing your tips. 🙂 x, Fatima

  2. What a brilliant post! You’ve really gone into a lot of detail.
    I read this book will save your life a few years ago and I LOVED it. I can’t actually remember much of the story now, so you’ve inspired me to reread it.
    Green tea is my favourite, especially if it’s loose leaf (it’s more flavorful I think) and you add some mint.
    I’ve tried yoga, it’s hard work! I don’t do it often enough. I’ll light some candles next time I do. 😊

    1. Thank you so much! Relaxation is really important to me 😊 I’ll try green tea that way instead, it sound like it would taste better. And yoga is definitely worth it! There’s different poses, I find some are more of a workout so I guess it’s about finding the right ones to calm you xxx

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